I've got to honestly say my wife is the same way

 

It's a team effort with separate accounts as well. But her having to ask me for my share of the expenses after she does the monthly accounting helps me keep track of where my money is going.

 

I have a similiar deal, 2 accounts and I pay for almost everything. My beautiful wife pays for food and whatever the kids need.

Last week we went to the local HD and she spent $400 on BS and I spent $50. No wait a minute, she spent $0 and I spent $450 now that I think about it. WTF!

 

I don't have a stash, and I'm not married yet, but will be May 2. We've lived together for a little over a year now. I usually tell her what I buy, but I try to leave out how much I spend. I once heard someone say there are three costs to everything - what you tell your friends you paid, what you tell your lady you paid, and how much it really cost.

I make about 3 or 4 times her income (I work a lot of OT), and she doesn't really know what I make. I pay all of the bills including her cell phone. She buys the groceries. The joint account thing has been brought up in conversation before. I think she was testing the water at the time, but I'm trying to pick up my toys while I can! If I left out a bank statement, I'd probably be grounded! That may be for the best, though.

 

My wife doesn't have a clue how much money we have or even where all of it is at. As long as her checks clear the bank and her debit card is never refused she is a happy camper. Anything major is completely up to me to decide on (not counting a woman's many ways of influencing a man).

At times I wish she would take charge of the financials around here, but she has no desire in that area. Usually she gets the mail, but I do not remember once in the past 20 years she has ever even opened a credit card statement.

Having said that, after 30 years of marriage we have a pretty good understanding of what we can afford. Large purchases items are usually discussed (except when I surprise her with a new car for her or jewelry) but she tends to give me the last word. I have also discovered over the years that her spending usually imitates my own. If a new $600 seat appears on my bike and one does not appear on hers, then I should expect a similar $600 charge to appear at the bank in short order for whatever she has her eye on that week.

I tell people we have a division of labor in our house, she writes checks and I cover them.

 

Sounds like my deal I fill the account and she empties it.