I hear you been there played that game and got out with a whole skin ( barely ) but that's rare in todays world and lets face it if she's been around 10 yrs she should have a fair idea if there's sharks in the water long before now .

Her saying the bike goes should be a red flag here , if it was just the club I'd side with you on that . When the total control games start the first step is to separate the target from anything that can take attention away from the player up to losing a job over it if she shes your time being taken away from her over it , The bike is almost always the first target because the guy cares about it so it's competition for her time and attention so it must go , she'll be trying to cut him off from close friends and family soon too watch .

 

Good point on the bike having to go and not just the club, unless it's a bargaining chip for her for compromise.

And yeah, she couldn't be that deaf, dumb and blind and suddenly wake up to reality and consequently wants the game rules changed, (unless something just happened.)

Otherwise this proclamation of hers has been brewing for a helluva' long time and he didn't see it coming, in which case you're right, they're toast.

 

Yeah, this one stinks to high heaven to me. I think the game rules are getting changed because she WANTS them changed. I'm wondering if something in HER life is suddenly different...A new girlfriend who say's "I wouldn't put up with that"? She's got her eye on another guy???

If she's been with a club member for ten years & suddenly, not only wants the club gone, but the bike as well.....I'm gonna agree with others that this has been brewing for a long time &, if she gets what she wants, it's only the beginning.

 

hmmm...its so much easier to solve other peoples relationship problems lol.
i agree with some of the others in that if its not this thing it will be some other thing.I wouldnt fault a man for putting up with some sht from his wife.I can put up with stuff you cant and you can put up with stuff i cant. BUT...if she is doing the ultimatum stuff and dangling the kids out there...sad to say she is gone. I think he could walk a straight line doing everything she thinks she wants and she will still be gone. ----personally i would try for a compromise(time at home ) if it were possible but im sure he already has.
Personal note---i grew up in a pretty unstable enviroment due to my mom and stepdad.Thank god i had my dad as a rock. Anything good about me came from my dad and if they had stuck together i probably would have just had two pissed off parents.----I do believe in staying for the kids to some degree but if its down to threats then it is reaching the point of being pointless IMO.
Dunno how it works where youre from but around here a man can forget about getting custody of his kids unless the woman is a crack *****....anything better than a crack ***** is shown preferential treatment over a man. If they split just hope he doesnt make any threats and just let it go as easy as possible so he wont ruin his chances for weekend visitations.Being patched out will probably be used against him already and he doesnt want to give her lawyers any more ammo.---this sht sucks and the only way for it not to suck is to harden up and not feel anything....but then your not really alive soooo.....just thinking about this is bringing me down...good luck to your bro.

 

It seems most of the time women either think you (not you) are either a jacka$$ or a punk.Most of them really cant be happy it seems.I dont know why.

IMO if anyone is given an ultimatum by a woman and you stand youre ground and she stays or caves/whatvever the ultimatum was.......THAT is when you kiss her ***, at least to some degree, as you dont want her resenting you and getting stronger and smarter etc and come back for round two.....you dont want round two because now she has prepared herself for the worse and has accepted it.You really want to avoid this scenario....now you can be nice and show her she is important so she dont resents the fact that she "lost"...(we are dealing with women here wtf am i suppose to say...everything is tit for tat with these creatures) Otherwise the resentment will eat at her and build up just like it would you if you had given in.----and know youre battles.I see more stupid fights(ashamed to say ive been in them until i gained some wisdom) with couples over idiotic stuff.Nowadays if a woman tells me the grass is blue and the sky is green i say..."it sure is honey"( im thinking you nutty stupid biaatch" )

women are just fkn nuts and theres no getting around that.

 

Unless he's a one-percenter its really not that big of a deal. As adults, both should find more time to balance there lives including the kiddos. Like my daddy used to say- gotta give a little to get a little!!

 

Stray, I hate to tell you this, but a lot of men (and I use the term loosely) are the same way....Champion game-players. I put up with one for over two years longer than I would have, just because he could cry on cue. Couldn't stand to see it so it was always "Ok, ok, just quit cryin'!" Lord he was a useless thing!

 

Best advice yet.

 

damn....well i guess i cant deny that because there are some useless men out there.I have seen some situations where i gotta wonder wtf the woman was thinking in the first place.....yep i gotta admit that. I personally dont hang out with game playing people.I would have zero use for a man like you described and wouldnt want him anywhere around me.That could be a complete nuther thread.You are right about that for sure.

 

Na Gypsy it's the end, she is not going to stop till she has his liver with fava beans. This is a search and destroy mission on someones part.
I'm with all youse on that this has been brewing, she is just waiting waste him