Yep........We ain't getting any younger either hahaha........

 

My girl is always bitching about the money i spend on my other hunny .i just bought a solo seat and she didn't say anything ???????

 

Mine says I can pack any woman I want on the back as long as they meet one of three criteria:


1) They're family
2) They're under 18
3) They're over 60.

 

As far as my wife is concerned. That is her back seat!

 

My wife trusts me with good reason. I can ride anyone, but if she said not that one, then... that one would not get a ride. I have enough to handle at home.

 

[QUOTE=Faast Ed: Keep in mind, often they say they don't mind, but deep inside they still are bothered by it.
They say it's okay, then act all 'funny' when you do it..[/QUOTE]

Perhaps, yes .. Sometimes, we do 'say' we "don't mind" .. There are times when the 'elements' are tested. There are many 'elements' in a relationship ..Trust being one of the ones at the top of the list.

When we genuinely don't want to become controlling by dictating what you can and can not do, we must rely on the level of mutual trust we have established in the relationship. There is a fine line of what is considered a mutually agreed upon level of acceptable behaviour.

As a couple, we all know our limits and the consequences for crossing the line. Some people take it to the extreme and hope they don't cross that line but waiver precariously on the edge, some stay well within the confines of the safety zone. Some of us have earned that level of trust, some just simply are not trust worthy.

To some it's a sacrifice, to some it's a test, to some it's mutual trust and respect. Problems will stem from a person's choice to add judgement tainting susbstances to the mix (IE: Alcohol or drugs). The limits don't change .. just one's ability to judge where that limit is.

 

My wife asked me to give one of here friends a ride once because she had never been on a bike. I didn’t care much for the idea but I gave her a ride anyway. Well her friend decided to rub everything she had all over my back. She is a fun loving girl and asked if she could straddle and face me as we were coming back for fun. The only thing I could come up with on such short notice was I’m afraid you’ll scratch my paint. Lame answer I know but didn’t want to say I think we would fall off.

When we got back my wife asked her if she liked the ride. She said she loved it. I told her boy friend that he really needs to get a bike. He gave me a very funny look.

 

My girlfriend doesnt care if I give rides...but the wife does.

 

Funny, how that works!
I'm not completely convinced that 'trust' is the main element involved.
One often feels protective of the one they love and don't want nobody pressing up against them (even having all the trust in the world).

Like a mother being protective of he pups. Or her bike seat. Don't want it "tainted". LOL

 

I got one of them "If you can read this..." Tee shirts.

It ends with "...it's 'cuz I'm afraid my wife would find out."