I disagree..A Kawi 500 has the same power, but weighs almost 200lbs less. IMO and 883 or a 1200 is just fine for a first-time rider. Neither has enough power to scare someone who's paying attention. They're low to the ground, and have a good riding position that's conducive to slow-speed maneuverability, something that's often overlooked, but riders often have the most problems with.
Whenever someone comes into my store and tells me the same thing about "dumping" their bike, I tell 'em they have no business riding at all if they plan on crashing. There's no reason why you should. If you take a rider's course, they give you the tools you need to ride safe and have a good time.

 

There are so many threads here about this. I'm getting tired of typing my height and weight.

just about 6'4" 205 lbs
mid controls on my nightster are fine
I 2-up allot and still have plenty of power