If you don't know the answer to someone's question, don't post a guess or bother with your opinion for Christ's sake.

1.) Security can be added by dealer, but it'll likely cost you more including labor.
2.) ABS cannot be added by dealer.
3.) Yes dealers can swap bikes, but there is no guarantee it is a cost free exchange, that depends on the dealer (stealer) you are dealing with as well as your negotiation skills, which, from the sound of the OP, he doesn't have.

 

Make damn sure you order the following:

1. ABS
2. Security
3. Cruise

Since they come with the 103 package, that makes it easy.

If you can afford it, have the delaer install some 255 cams, stage 1 intake, exhaust and an SE tuner. That way the work is under warranty.

~Joe