Yeah. I still think my kids owe me for wiping their ***. And even though they're gonna hear my 2 cents forever, I know they won't always listen. And that makes me proud. I agree with the OP, bad timing. If mama ain't happy, nobody's happy.

 

If he is the responsible man you say he is, then why would you have to worry about him not spending time and raising his child. Every parent is entitled to some down time and a break, if he so wishes to spend that time riding it's his prerogative. Hell, it's the only thing that keeps me sane sometimes!

 

Why can't he do both - raise a family and ride???? Just because he has a bike doesn't mean he needs to ride every weekend and all weekend, right?

Now, this is completely different if he has no money for payments. If he's light in the wallet, have him look on CL for an older Sporty - plenty out there for well under $5k.

 

I applaud your effort to steer him towards his 'family' responsibilities, but you state that he is financially capable to have the scoot and IS a responsible young man. Unless getting the bike will cause a big problem between he and his wife, I think you should support his decision, or wish to get the bike.

You will still be able to guide him towards his "family time" and can even be more influential if you back him up. Maybe talk to his wife and assure her you can be more persuasive if you support his decision. And if you can get her to support it, he will have you to thank.

I think he's feeling the pressure of his upcoming responsibilities and needing an outlet for the stress. This is a great way to help him deal with the stress and guide him so he still gets enough family time to be a good dad and husband.

 

"Stand down???" What the hell does that mean? It's none of your damn business and if my pops ever talked to me like that after I was on my own, he sure wouldn't see his grandkids...

What a crock. Stand down, like you're General Patton or something.

Sheesh...

 

As long as he can afford the minvan for the family and the bike let him get both. That being said your Dad duties don't just end when they hit 18, but they do change. Now we are just in an advisory position.

 

Expecting a 1st child is a life changing event in a man’s life, and a time to plan what kind of lifestyle the family will soon have. Think of it as a practice mid-life crisis.

Your son seems to have an optimistic view of his future, & if a used Sportster can bring happiness into their future, it sounds like a responsible plan.

 

You can have hobbies (Motorcycle) and a family too. Just because you have a child doesn't mean you can never have time for yourself, just not as much as you use to have

 

I think it's your son's decision not yours. My old man would never have told me what to do after I was out and married.