Where did I say in my post that I "own" my husband. Don't have a problem with him helping another women out. But do have a problem with a strange woman asking my husband for a ride. I agree he told her and she probably should not have gotten upset. I know if my husband told me that he did something like this, I would not have a problem with it. Trust him totally, it not about owning him its about respect and alot of women do not have that respect. Those I call scooter trash.

My husband came home one day and told me about one of the girls in his office asked him for a ride. He told her that she would have to ask me, that is my husband having respect for my feelings. I would have told her sure go for a ride. But that spot behind him is a very intimate spot and also to speak of the liability if the women has never been on the back of a bike. She can make him wreck simply by doing something stupid. Don't want to take that chance.

Not mad, understand your opinion and respect it.

 

I agree with you here on this one. I never ask my friends husband for anything, I ask her first.

 

I wouldn't care if DH helped a friend on his bike or my bike, ride whomever you want, who cares. But do not take one of MY helmets or I will kick your azz!! Get your own damn spare helmet for this chit!!

Now, we do have a single friend who abuses the kindness of my DH. She's always calling - come fix this, come shoot that snake, come help me with my bike. Get some freaking boyfriends forcryingoutloud!! The DH finally got tired of it, but he's too nice to say no, so I did tell her to go on match.com and get a damn boyfriend or two or seven. No, she's not a dog, she's a beautiful woman.

I've never been the jealous type. In fact I did not find out my ex cheated on me until two years after we were divorced!! Who cares - if I worried about that chit all my life I'd go nuts. People will do what they will do regardless - I trust everyone until they show me I can't then I move on.

 

"Did I do something wrong?"

Well, yes and no.

You were chivelrous. You came to the aid of a woman in distress. That makes you a good man.

You made a bad choice in the rescue by taking the scoot. Had you taken the car or truck, this issue would not be an issue.

Whether or not she rides, the back seat belongs to your wife/girlfriend/S.O.. This is generally not up for debate. Some women don't care, as they realize that you know (you BETTER) where you sleep at night & with whom. But, those women are certainly NOT in the majority. Most women are, by nature, jealous and highly territorial of thier mate.

Your intentions, good or ill, are NOT a part of this discussion. It's your actions that matter.

If the situation arises in the future, spend the extra minute or two and call your woman & ASK if she minds. It's the responsible (and SAFE) thing to do.

As a good friend tells me:
"It's good to be the king! As long as the queen is happy, that is..."

 

I'd pay to see that!!! Cold day in hell before my bro's would ride bitch!

 

According to me you did the right thing, I think you will get other opinions.
I know my wife would say you should have taken the truck.
What are you gonna do?

MikeM

 

You know, some people still have these things called "home phones" where, if you call that number, you aren't guaranteed to get a specific member of the household. People like the original poster in this thread. The wife's friend did not call the OP. She called the house and the OP happened to be the only person home at the time. The OP figured that he'd be a nice guy and save his wife's friend the trouble of calling around.

Seems to me that a lot of folks in this thread are very good at inventing imaginary slights to get angry about.

 

How bout just dating and marrying more secure women? problem solved!

 

oh well tell her to get over it......thats what i do....and guess what! she gets over it.

 

Like other posters may have stated....reverse the rolls...how would you feel?