So why did you tell him where the next gas station was if you were not intending to wait for him? Do did you tell him that you were not going to wait for him?

 

I'll usually wait about 15 minutes, after that they're on their own....

 

i have two pals like this. as long as you are not behind them it's not to bad. if you get behind one of them they slow and then speed up and sometimes when going up hills they slow down so much and down shift i worry that someone will rear end them. these guys have been riding for many years too. their riding style sucks and i stay away from them when we are all out. it takes awhile for them to catch up, but so be it. i'm just glad they ride their ride and alls safe.

 

The OP didn't mention the type of roads or speed limits in thecar a of the 100 mile ride. I would say if say if someone can comfortably ride the speed limit they do not belong on the road, and tell him that. If 45 is the average speed limit, then you need to chill.

 

The speed limits on the ride are mostly 55mph and a lot of your 4 wheel vehicles will be running 60+mph.

I'm the rider who will ride the speed limit but doesn't mind going 5mph over if a faster rider is with me.

It's going to hurt his feelings but I bought my bike to ride it like I want to.

 

If he is old enough to buy a bike and still has feelings, that's not your fault.

 

I cannot understand someone who can ride no more than 45 MPH. I would not ride with them. I am almost never driving anything at 45 MPH or less.

 

If you don't want to hurt his feelings and are concerned about your relationship then just don't go. Tell him something came up and go riding on your own or occupy your time elsewhere. Repeat process as needed and eventually he'll get the point. For some a passive aggressive response like this doesn't hurt their fragile little feelings because it's Non Confrontational.

 

Learn the lyrics to Sammy Hagars old song " I can't drive 55 " substitute 45 and sing it every time your around him and his family.

 

He can't run the speed limit - he's a menace

Ride your ride - he'll get to the destination - eventually

Meanwhile..., get a head start on the beer

Ghost