How Do You Tell Somebody NICELY That You Don't Want To Ride With Them
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How Do You Tell Somebody NICELY That You Don't Want To Ride With Them
I'm talking about the situation where there's a trip coming up (like Daytona) and you'd really rather not ride up with a slowpoke. You just know they are going to slow you down, either because they ride below the speed limit, they like to stop too often and for too long, or because they are a crappy rider or a new rider.
It's difficult to say no when you're going to the same hotel. I had the misfortune of riding to and from Daytona a few years back with the slowest guy on the planet. 20-25mph below whatever the posted speed limit, he nearly got us killed on I-95 going on the on ramp at 50 and nearly running us into a truck. I stayed with him and his friend for about 20 miles, stuck behind semis, then I couldn't take it any longer and rode home alone.
So I just need a nice way to say I'd rather ride alone or with a couple others that ride similar to me.
It's difficult to say no when you're going to the same hotel. I had the misfortune of riding to and from Daytona a few years back with the slowest guy on the planet. 20-25mph below whatever the posted speed limit, he nearly got us killed on I-95 going on the on ramp at 50 and nearly running us into a truck. I stayed with him and his friend for about 20 miles, stuck behind semis, then I couldn't take it any longer and rode home alone.
So I just need a nice way to say I'd rather ride alone or with a couple others that ride similar to me.
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I'm talking about the situation where there's a trip coming up (like Daytona) and you'd really rather not ride up with a slowpoke. You just know they are going to slow you down, either because they ride below the speed limit, they like to stop too often and for too long, or because they are a crappy rider or a new rider.
It's difficult to say no when you're going to the same hotel. I had the misfortune of riding to and from Daytona a few years back with the slowest guy on the planet. 20-25mph below whatever the posted speed limit, he nearly got us killed on I-95 going on the on ramp at 50 and nearly running us into a truck. I stayed with him and his friend for about 20 miles, stuck behind semis, then I couldn't take it any longer and rode home alone.
So I just need a nice way to say I'd rather ride alone or with a couple others that ride similar to me.
It's difficult to say no when you're going to the same hotel. I had the misfortune of riding to and from Daytona a few years back with the slowest guy on the planet. 20-25mph below whatever the posted speed limit, he nearly got us killed on I-95 going on the on ramp at 50 and nearly running us into a truck. I stayed with him and his friend for about 20 miles, stuck behind semis, then I couldn't take it any longer and rode home alone.
So I just need a nice way to say I'd rather ride alone or with a couple others that ride similar to me.
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How Do You Tell Somebody NICELY That You Don't Want To Ride With Them
If it was slowness, I might not say anything because sometimes it is better not to race to get where you are going. In other words enjoy the ride. That being said, if the slowness is a big deal, then take time to explain why, such as you need to be a certain place by a certain time because of a certain thing. Having the patience to explain your reasoning is a mark of a friend.
If it is poor skill set, crappy riding, being dangerous, not knowing how to properly ride in s group, then that is a more legitimate thing. Still, explain your safety concerns and suggest he take a riding course or take the time to teach him proper technique to improve what he is deficient in. Again, friendship is about being patient enough to explain your reasons for disagreement.
I don't ride with a group. Sometimes I might ride with my dad but that is it because I know how he rides, his habits, and it is only one other person besides myself to have to maintain close awareness of.
If it is poor skill set, crappy riding, being dangerous, not knowing how to properly ride in s group, then that is a more legitimate thing. Still, explain your safety concerns and suggest he take a riding course or take the time to teach him proper technique to improve what he is deficient in. Again, friendship is about being patient enough to explain your reasons for disagreement.
I don't ride with a group. Sometimes I might ride with my dad but that is it because I know how he rides, his habits, and it is only one other person besides myself to have to maintain close awareness of.
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FSantana (06-23-2017)
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Geeze thanks a lot Lauren... you coulda just told me.
Seriously though, no need to try and be overly 'nice' about it. Especially if you feel it's a safety issue. Hell I'd rather somebody told me up front and I wouldn't take offense. It's the old 'ride your own ride' mantra and you'll see them when you get there. Life's too short, just be up front and if they can't handle it then that's their problem. Don't make it yours.
Seriously though, no need to try and be overly 'nice' about it. Especially if you feel it's a safety issue. Hell I'd rather somebody told me up front and I wouldn't take offense. It's the old 'ride your own ride' mantra and you'll see them when you get there. Life's too short, just be up front and if they can't handle it then that's their problem. Don't make it yours.
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