Wife cries when I ride....This isn't good :(
#21
01-17-2015, 12:14 PM
Dude - no offense but with everything you've been thru, I think the writing in on the wall to find another hobby, not to also say that you should be respecting your wife wishes with her request to give up the bike.
God forbid something does happen to you, your spouse is going to have to live with the decision you made.
Best with your choice.
God forbid something does happen to you, your spouse is going to have to live with the decision you made.
Best with your choice.
#22
01-17-2015, 12:34 PM
You need to sit down and have a conversation with your wife.
Right now, she's presenting her side without actually discussing what she's feeling. She's actually using guilt to have you give in to her fears. She's not discussing her fears...and she needs to. Once that happens you can at least attempt come to a conclusion that works for both of you.
On your side, you need to acknowledge her feelings, not discount them and honestly work towards presenting a solution that works for both of you.
While I understand her fears, I also have a belief that if we're not careful about how we deal with fear, it will end up controlling our lives.
Right now, she's presenting her side without actually discussing what she's feeling. She's actually using guilt to have you give in to her fears. She's not discussing her fears...and she needs to. Once that happens you can at least attempt come to a conclusion that works for both of you.
On your side, you need to acknowledge her feelings, not discount them and honestly work towards presenting a solution that works for both of you.
While I understand her fears, I also have a belief that if we're not careful about how we deal with fear, it will end up controlling our lives.
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#23
01-17-2015, 12:41 PM
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You need to sit down and have a conversation with your wife.
Right now, she's presenting her side without actually discussing what she's feeling. She's actually using guilt to have you give in to her fears. She's not discussing her fears...and she needs to. Once that happens you can at least attempt come to a conclusion that works for both of you.
On your side, you need to acknowledge her feelings, not discount them and honestly work towards presenting a solution that works for both of you.
While I understand her fears, I also have a belief that if we're not careful about how we deal with fear, it will end up controlling our lives.
Right now, she's presenting her side without actually discussing what she's feeling. She's actually using guilt to have you give in to her fears. She's not discussing her fears...and she needs to. Once that happens you can at least attempt come to a conclusion that works for both of you.
On your side, you need to acknowledge her feelings, not discount them and honestly work towards presenting a solution that works for both of you.
While I understand her fears, I also have a belief that if we're not careful about how we deal with fear, it will end up controlling our lives.
This right here , best comment yet. Tough spot to be in Stig and woman are masters of the doe eyed guilt trip, good luck buddy.
#24
01-17-2015, 12:53 PM
#25
01-17-2015, 12:56 PM
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Dude - no offense but with everything you've been thru, I think the writing in on the wall to find another hobby, not to also say that you should be respecting your wife wishes with her request to give up the bike.
God forbid something does happen to you, your spouse is going to have to live with the decision you made.
Best with your choice.
God forbid something does happen to you, your spouse is going to have to live with the decision you made.
Best with your choice.
But I had a bike before I had a car back in '69. I've owned more bikes than I can remember off the top of my head. Owned my own aftermarket bike shop too (for 7 years,) and have worked for (4) HD Dealerships over the years. As my grown daughter has said, it was never a question in her mind that I'd be back on a bike after that wreck.
Really? Seems like it may be more than a hobby to this guy. Maybe you should advise Dale Jr. or Trey Canard to quit racing while you're at it. Maybe she should have thought about marrying a guy who's life revolves around motorcycles.
Interesting because after a bad crash that was my doing and almost losing my leg, my wife said that she would have thought less of me if I didn't go back to it. That's when she decided that she wanted to ride with me.
Last edited by dribble; 01-17-2015 at 01:04 PM.
#27
01-17-2015, 01:19 PM
You need to sit down and have a conversation with your wife.
Right now, she's presenting her side without actually discussing what she's feeling. She's actually using guilt to have you give in to her fears. She's not discussing her fears...and she needs to. Once that happens you can at least attempt come to a conclusion that works for both of you.
On your side, you need to acknowledge her feelings, not discount them and honestly work towards presenting a solution that works for both of you.
While I understand her fears, I also have a belief that if we're not careful about how we deal with fear, it will end up controlling our lives.
Right now, she's presenting her side without actually discussing what she's feeling. She's actually using guilt to have you give in to her fears. She's not discussing her fears...and she needs to. Once that happens you can at least attempt come to a conclusion that works for both of you.
On your side, you need to acknowledge her feelings, not discount them and honestly work towards presenting a solution that works for both of you.
While I understand her fears, I also have a belief that if we're not careful about how we deal with fear, it will end up controlling our lives.
And, to the poster who said: "I think the writing in on the wall to find another hobby"
That poster doesn't get it. Riding, for some, is not a "hobby", it's part of who we are.
#28
01-17-2015, 02:23 PM
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#29
01-17-2015, 02:39 PM
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My wife was an ER nurse, and called motorcycles donorcycles. I started riding after being married 22 years in 2003. Now she likes to ride 2 up.
I have good life and disability insurance. I do avoid night riding, because of all the deer around here.
I figure my wife would miss me for a while, but cheer up spending my life insurance.
I have good life and disability insurance. I do avoid night riding, because of all the deer around here.
I figure my wife would miss me for a while, but cheer up spending my life insurance.
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01-17-2015, 02:46 PM
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You need to sit down and have a conversation with your wife.
Right now, she's presenting her side without actually discussing what she's feeling. She's actually using guilt to have you give in to her fears. She's not discussing her fears...and she needs to. Once that happens you can at least attempt come to a conclusion that works for both of you.
On your side, you need to acknowledge her feelings, not discount them and honestly work towards presenting a solution that works for both of you.
While I understand her fears, I also have a belief that if we're not careful about how we deal with fear, it will end up controlling our lives.
Right now, she's presenting her side without actually discussing what she's feeling. She's actually using guilt to have you give in to her fears. She's not discussing her fears...and she needs to. Once that happens you can at least attempt come to a conclusion that works for both of you.
On your side, you need to acknowledge her feelings, not discount them and honestly work towards presenting a solution that works for both of you.
While I understand her fears, I also have a belief that if we're not careful about how we deal with fear, it will end up controlling our lives.
This right here.